Anti-Racist Business Practices

For many years I worked as an administrator in the nonprofit sector, among a group of well intentioned folks. We spent a lot of time ruminating on the lack of diversity in our field of community mediation, and more broadly in the field of dispute resolution. As a volunteer based community organization it was glaringly obvious that our majority white, upper-middle class volunteers did not reflect the demographics of our client base. Each time we held a training for new potential volunteers, we would count the number of black and brown faces in the group and pat ourselves on the back if they numbered more than a small few.

I admit that I was part of the problem. My critical analysis of the social impact of our business practices was lacking. And as the person responsible for managing the budget, I knew how critical our training income was for the overall organization. So the lack of diversity continued to be a talking point on our meeting agendas, but not an organizational priority in terms of investment of resources.

Now that I work for myself and don’t have to navigate the red tape and bureaucracy of an organization, and more importantly have done some more learning and reflection on my own white privilege, its been exciting to experiment and test some of my theories on what actions are actually effective in fostering diversity.

When I first started offering online training in August 2020, I was deep in reflection on systemic racism and white privilege. It is clear to me that my racial identity has afforded me many advantages, both personally and professionally. And while awareness is powerful and important, I also want to be taking action and embodying anti-racist principles in my life. This means looking at the intersection of my privilege and my sphere of influence - what resources do I have access to that could be put to use in service to greater equity?

Some of the barriers to equity that I have seen in the dispute resolution field exist at the entry point of initial training. Training fees and training schedules have made it difficult for many people to access this important step toward professional dispute resolution practice. As a self-employed, certified initial mediation trainer I have the power to provide professional level training at an accessible cost and on a variety of different schedules. And so I do.

Offering solidarity discounts, and needs-based discounts, as well as alternating between weekday and weekend training have been some of the strategies that I’ve used so far to expand access to the initial mediation training that I am qualified to offer. But this is just a starting point. To really manifest a shift towards greater equity, there need to be more pathways toward opportunities for professional practice.

While I have been able to utilize my social capital of professional connections to support individuals in accessing opportunities for apprenticeship and further training, there is much more that needs to be done. I continue to seek ways to expand access to the skills and experience necessary for folks build a professional practice.

As an anti-racist entrepreneur, I believe we all suffer under white supremacy. As a white person it is easy for me to ignore the more tangible impacts of system racism because my white privilege protects me. But I know that my liberation, and the liberation of my children, is directly tied to the liberation of all people. So I want to show up in a way that acknowledges that I have skin in the game. I am not only interested in the idea of diversity and equity. I am actively seeking opportunities to put these values into action.

P.S. The choices that I make in my own business are also deeply connected to my anti-capitalist beliefs and practice. But that’s for another blog post :) stay tuned!

Feeling Machines

We are not thinking machines that feel; rather, we are feeling machines that think.

The quote above from Antonio Damasio is swirling around my brain these days. What does it mean that we, as humans, are not the “rational” decision makers we believe ourselves to be? How does this impact the way we support clients in mediation? How does this impact the way that we mediate?

I had the opportunity to present at the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation annual conference at the end of April. My presentation centered around my hypothesis that a mediator’s capacity to facilitate an effective mediation relies as much on the mediator’s ability to manage their emotions, as it does on supporting the parties in managing theirs. Meaning, the mediator needs to practice attuning to their internal state and managing their own nervous system response, in order to provide a satisfying experience for their clients.

As mediators we bring into the process our own values, perspectives, and triggers around conflict and communication. The choices we make in facilitating the process, including strategies and techniques for intervention, are guided largely by our own emotional state. When our trauma responses are activated, our interventions stem from our discomfort and triggers more than our conscious choice. To be present and engaged in service of our clients, mediators need to practice regulating ourselves.

My brain is definitely swirling as I dive deeper into learning about this topic. I hope to have an opportunity to talk to more folks, to share experiences, tools, and knowledge. I would love to know your thoughts.

The Year to Come

For the past two years I’ve used an intention setting practice of choosing a word to focus my energy for that year. So far I’ve worked through CONNECTION and GROWTH. It’s been fun. As 2022 rolled in, I started wondering what my word would be this time around but nothing has been crystalizing. To be honest, I don’t quite feel done with CONNECTION and GROWTH. I keep coming back to those two as places where I want to direct my energy.

I haven’t quite given up on finding a new word for this year. But I’m taking the pressure off and expanding to bring in new practices and tools, also with the goal of finding clarity around my intentions for the year. This year I’m dipping my toe into tarot.

With the guidance of the Many Moons 2022 Lunar Planner by Sarah Faith Gottesdiener (you can check it out here) I focused on the year ahead and asked the following questions:

What am I healing this year?

What 3 arenas, topics, or themes will I explore most this year?

What could be difficult this year?

What quality will I need the most of this year?

In what area will I see the most change this year?

What is it finally time for me to bring forth or create this year?

What (or who) will be my greatest support or helper?

Where will I thrive?

And this was the spread that I pulled:

I’m a newbie tarot reader, so I relied heavily on the guide book for interpreting these cards, but the themes that emerged feel aligned and inspiring. My reading tells me that this year I will be leaning on family and close friends, with lots of support coming through collaboration and teamwork. I’m seeing the call to bring in simplicity and temperance, balance and patience. And I’m seeing that there will be lots of growth in business and financial stability, while also opportunities for new beginnings, travel and spontaneity.

This tool is fun and I’m feeling inspired to step into the possibilities that 2022 brings.

What are some intentions that you are setting for the coming year? What tools or resources help you find clarity in your purpose?